13 dpo - impatient!

greenhouseblac…
Since 9/2016greenhouseblackdog
Since 9/2016

September 29, 2016 at 9:36 amI didn't know it was possible to feel so impatient about something that's happening so soon- usually things (deadlines, eevents, etc.) rush at me way too fast!

I'm 13 dpo and noticed spotting a few times in ~24 hours ending yesterday (12 dpo) morning.

This is my first cycle TTC, so in all my TTA charts I really wasn't that careful about noting pre-AF symptoms. I consider my LP to be 12 days long - but I know that I always spot a couple days before the first real flow day, and I honestly can't remember (even after years) whether I determined 12 days based on first day of spotting or first day of real flow- I only recently learned you should only consider the latter to be CD1.

Soo like every other impatient TTC 10-14 dpo woman on the internet, I could either be having 1) totally normal pre-AF symptoms, I'll get AF any hour today/tomorrow, b) early pregnancy signs. And the only thing to do is wait. I feel pretty sure it's #1- we only had 1 day of well-timed BD because of a family visit- but I am so impatient to find out!!!

mandy_pie19
Since 10/2015mandy_pie19
Since 10/2015

September 29, 2016 at 9:50 amTake a test :) I always have Internet cheapies on hand for these moments haha. And I never would have made to 13dpo. 12 is the farthest I've gone and that was only once.

ChartingWithWh…
Since 4/2013ChartingWithWhitney
Since 4/2013

September 29, 2016 at 10:05 amKeep us posted if you do test!

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greenhouseblac…
Since 9/2016greenhouseblackdog
Since 9/2016

September 29, 2016 at 10:17 amOh hahahahah the idea that I haven't tested- wish I was that chill! It's just that as of yesterday (12 dpo) it was bfn and now I'm waiting til Saturday because the negatives make me sad!

mandy_pie19
Since 10/2015mandy_pie19
Since 10/2015

September 29, 2016 at 10:35 amAh yes that makes much more sense lol. I'll be testing Saturday as well. Let me know how it goes :)

greenhouseblac…
Since 9/2016greenhouseblackdog
Since 9/2016

October 1, 2016 at 7:30 am15 dpo, bfn on frer at 14 dpo (didn't test today, I'm relaxing a bit about it now that I feel so sure I'm not pregnant), fourth day of very light/intermittent spotting. This is my first cycle TTC and unfortuntately I stopped temping right after O because I was so in the habit of TTA charting- but now I realize I should have kept temping! Good luck acpohls!

mandy_pie19
Since 10/2015mandy_pie19
Since 10/2015

October 1, 2016 at 11:46 amI tested bfn today too 12dpo. This marks one year of trying. I'm a little discouraged but not as much as I thought. It took a long time with my first so I know there is still a chance. Better luck next cycles ladies.

greenhouseblac…
Since 9/2016greenhouseblackdog
Since 9/2016

October 1, 2016 at 11:51 amMaybe this is my selectively reading the internet, but bfn at 11dpo and 12 dpo without AF or a temp drop doesn't seem like totally out?? It seems like the majority of women don't get a BFP until after 12 dpo.

http://community.babycenter.com/post/a52844437/dpo_bfp_poll_updated

(that's just one survey but...I've googled and found...a lot)

mandy_pie19
Since 10/2015mandy_pie19
Since 10/2015

October 1, 2016 at 2:54 pmYes that's true. I've been pregnant 4 times and had all my bfp at 12 dpo. So it's still possibl I am but I just don't see why this one would be any different. And I certainly don't feel pregnant. So I'm still sure I'm out.

greenhouseblac…
Since 9/2016greenhouseblackdog
Since 9/2016

October 2, 2016 at 2:06 pmA jumble of info. below, mostly posting because whether I am or am not pg I know I'll want to look back at what was going on in my crazy end-of-TWW mind.

Well...still no AF, I spotted on 11 dpo, 12 dpo, 14 dpo, 15 dpo (not today). I took an ept (not with fmu) and think there's a very faint line but in the interest of full disclosure, when I showed it to my husband he literally laughed this kind/pitying "you have truly lost your mind" laugh (fyi- this is our first cycle TTC and we're in our 20s so stakes aren't super high atm).

I had mid-cycle spotting followed by what I thought was a slow rise. For as long as I've been charting (3 yrs), mid-cycle spotting happens the day before temp goes up. So now my options are: 1) I spotted earlier than usual and the slow rise wasn't a rise yet and I actually O'd a couple days later than I thought and I'm only 14 dpo, or 2) I'm pregnant and among the ~15% that don't have a BFP when period is missed. So the definition of unlikely...

I don't have any tests at home and I ordered wondfos hpt that won't be here until Tues. so my sanity goal is not to go and buy any other test, just wait and if AF doesn't arrive before the hpts do, I can retest then.

Vanessa A
Since 6/2012Vanessa A
Since 6/2012

October 3, 2016 at 8:30 amGreenhouse - I would try testing again with FMU. It really does make a difference.

I also never got a BFP before 12 DPO and always started daily testing at 10 DPO. When I did get the BFPs at 12 DPO the were very faint until the next day, even using FMU. So a BFN at 12 DPO definitely does not mean you are out.

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greenhouseblac…
Since 9/2016greenhouseblackdog
Since 9/2016

October 3, 2016 at 12:34 pmUgh, tested again- still not fmu (because when I woke up this morning I was feeling groggy and in my half asleep state, wanted to protect myself from a negative), but I broke down in the middle of the day and tested still after ~7 hours of not eating/drinking going to the bathroom. Still BFN. At this point it just seems unlikely that it's a false negative or too early to test and I'm wondering if I O'd at all.

I wasn't even that bummed about being out this month when I thought I was getting my period a week ago, but now it's CD 51 and I'm just worn out wondering and want to start another cycle. I haven't had a cycle this long since I was just coming off of hbc in 2012. Typically they're 33-45, but definitely not what anyone would call "regular". The 5 days of spotting on and off (and I really mean spotting, only a few times a day on TP) beginning 10 days after mid-cycle bleeding is definitely not something I have ever experienced before. Seems like bad luck/weird coincidence that this would happen my first cycle TTC!

greenhouseblac…
Since 9/2016greenhouseblackdog
Since 9/2016

October 3, 2016 at 2:33 pmWith the power of the internet, I have a new theory! Maybe I have an ovarian cyst. Toni doesn't say much about them in her book so I'm wary of internet info., but I always have incredibly painful cramps during AF after long (>45) cycles. I talked to an OBGYN friend of mine who said it could be that cysts that have had that long to grow are more painful when they rupture during menstruation. That's all fine, it sounds like they're incredibly common and don't affect conception/pregnancy.

But now I'm finding info (from other users on here) that they could delay a period? Not like I-calculated-my-O-wrong "late" period, but actually a late period. AND that they can bleed. So...a third possible explanation for being 17 dpo with spotting around missed AF and BFN!

I know that I could make a doctor's appt, but I find discussing cycles with OBGYNs to be so dissapointing. They never seem to care about anything other than whether you're pregnant, on birth control, or have STDs. When I was 21 (before I read tcoyf) I told my OBGYN that I was concerned because I had "short cycles with alternating a heavy and extremely light period" and she didn't even mention that it was probably ovulatory spotting (which now with charting I know it is) she just said are you trying to get pregnant? and when I said no she wrote me a perscription for hbc and told me that when/if I did want to get pregnant, she'd give me clomid. I guess I understand their perspective, it's very logical and efficient, but I want to know what's going on!

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13 dpo - impatient!