April 17, 2017 at 9:35 amHi ladies, I'm 7 weeks pregnant, everything is good so far. We heard/saw heartbeat last week!!
My question is about how careful those with previous history of miscarriage are being? I had one 2nd trimester miscarriage @ 20 weeks and 1 @ 7 weeks, 1 chemical. 7 weeks was probably chromosomal, and 20 weeks they're not sure, but most likely due to placental abruption. I'm of course trying to be careful, but also need to live my life. Its hard to balance. My immediate family (mom/sister/husband) want me to stay resting as much as possible. I've talked to my Dr. in the past and they don't particualarly agree with that. But what are your experiences? What do you think?
I definitely try to rest when I'm tired, but I work full time, go home after & relax. I do some chores around the house, and my husband helps a lot. Specifically I was invited to a party about 2.5 hour drive from our home next weekend in Atlantic City, my husband will drive but we are trying to decide if we should go. I tend to go to bed early, and it will be a late night with lots of excitement. A part of me wants to go & have fun, the other side is telling me that this is the 1st of many sacrifices I should make as a mother. That its better to stay home and rest.
Thanks for any thoughts you may have!
Since 8/2016justahippie
Since 8/2016
Congratulations & I hope you're holding a little one this time next year!
Since 6/2016poppydew
Since 6/2016
Since 9/2015Laurennl
Since 9/2015
I will say, in my 2nd pregnancy, I definitely had a lot of anxiety, but knew I needed to just keep doing what I was doing. I worked full time, and just made sure to ask my drs whenever I was uncertain about anything. I rested when my body told me to, and i made sure to just take things easy. We aren't 100% how my son passed, but the cord was around his neck, so there's a good chance that was the cause. So I know that there was nothing I did wrong.
Going into this new pregnancy, there is a lot more anxiety. I was personally, emotionally unable to return to work after my son. So I am now a stay at home wife. But I still try to do everything as normal as possible, and am even starting a part time job soon. My advice is to continue to do what YOU are comfertable with. I'm not sure what you do at work, but just make sure you don't overwork yourself. Take things easy, drink more water, and try to eat a little better (but don't beat yourself up if you crave those unhealthy foods).
Basically, there are very, very few things a mom can do to cause her to mc. Think about it, even mom's who do drugs the entire time end up having babies! The most important thing is to try to ease your anxieties. Stress is never good! If you're feeling overwhelmed, ask for help. If you're feeling uncertain about a situation, do what your gut tells you. If you're feeling anxious, talk! Obviously listen to your drs advice, but staying active and keeping your mind busy is important too!
Congrats on your pregnancy, and I pray you bring this baby home!
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*Mama to William(forever my angel),& Zachary*
Since 6/2016poppydew
Since 6/2016
I appreciate your feedback. And I am too so sorry for your loss, and so amazed at how brave you are getting pregnant again so quickly. I hope this is your rainbow baby!
I've been mulling this around all week, and yesterday finally decided we would go. I just graduated my RE office, at 8 weeks, and all is well. Then my husband happened to see our endochinologist today, who I've seen since my 1st MC, and has been very supportive of our journey. He just happened to tell my husband he needs to support me as much as possible (which he already does) and to make sure I keep my stress low. No journeys. My husband didn't even menion our trip until after he said that, and our Dr. recommended against it, said long car rides can be stressful on the body and I don't need that now. I was upset when my husband relayed the info, and also grateful for such a caring Dr. who thinks so much about me and my wellbeing. This is so rare, and I am so grateful for his wisdom. So, we will err on the side of caution and not go. I'm sad to miss my friends, but this baby is so important to me, I would rather be safe.
Wishing you well,
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