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Possible miscarriage?

So, a little background...we were TTC for 17 months after coming off HBC. My cycles were all over the place, one even needing to be stopped with progesterone after 150+ days. It was a huge rollercoaster emotionally after several doctors telling me (really based on absolutely nothing) that they didn't think I would ever get pregnant and a bunch of other negativity. Well last month we finally got the BFP we had been praying for. We were so overjoyed!
Fast forward to this week. I had my first u/s on Tuesday at what should have been 8w2d. The tech found the baby, but no heartbeat. She also asked if there was any possibility I could be only 6 weeks as baby was measuring 6w1d. Now I did ovulate a little later than normal this month (dating from LMP had me at 9w1d) but not THAT late, which I know due to BBT charting and positive OPK. Basically the ultrasound tech would not officially put miscarriage in the report because she thought maybe my dates were just off and the heart might possibly be just about to start beating. When my midwife came in though she was completely convinced it was a miscarriage and immediately started giving her condolences. Medically, and logically (I know my dates!) I believed she was right. She gave me the options, wait for it to naturally start or take medicine. She didn't feel I would need a d&c since it was measuring so samll. She said to take my time deciding. I walked out in shock and numb. I've spent the next few days in various states of intense devastation, anger, and grief.
Now? I don't know what to think. They think the baby has been gone for 3 weeks already, but I have not had the slightest spotting, cramping, etc. My cervix is still closed. I still feel all the same pregnancy symptoms, in fact they have increased. I absolutely did NOT want to get my hopes up only to have to grieve all over again. However, hubby has been 100% convinced they are wrong. At first I was mad about his reaction, and figured he was just trying to be in denial, but the more I think and read about it I'm not sure.
I know whatever happens will happen, but I absolutely can not take pills to end it if I am not 110% sure. I found the Misdiagnosed Miscarriage forum and read SO many stories just like mine where baby just had a slow start or was measured wrong or something and ended up completely healthy and thriving. Am I being stupid? Has anyone had experience with this? Doctor said she will do another u/s on Monday, 6 days later, but I'm also not entirely sure that's enough time to wait. I'm definitely not taking meds until I know for sure, but I'm not sure how or when I will be convinced.
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The catch in all of this is we are supposed to travel in 16 days and it is not a trip I am willing to cancel. So I'm not sure how long this process is going to take and if at some point I should give in and take the meds as much as I really want to let it happen naturally.
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Liliah is 3.5 yrs old! Everly arrived Jan 25th! <3
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Sending you both support and healing
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39 TTC #2 (DH 45)
DD 4y6mth (5/10/13)
MC 8w3d and 7 CP
Phoenix born 8/25/18!! :-)