Possible miscarriage?

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June 20, 2015 at 12:57 pmSorry for the multiple posts, I'm not quite sure how my phone messed up, but trying again:

So, a little background...we were TTC for 17 months after coming off HBC. My cycles were all over the place, one even needing to be stopped with progesterone after 150+ days. It was a huge rollercoaster emotionally after several doctors telling me (really based on absolutely nothing) that they didn't think I would ever get pregnant and a bunch of other negativity. Well last month we finally got the BFP we had been praying for. We were so overjoyed!

Fast forward to this week. I had my first u/s on Tuesday at what should have been 8w2d. The tech found the baby, but no heartbeat. She also asked if there was any possibility I could be only 6 weeks as baby was measuring 6w1d. Now I did ovulate a little later than normal this month (dating from LMP had me at 9w1d) but not THAT late, which I know due to BBT charting and positive OPK. Basically the ultrasound tech would not officially put miscarriage in the report because she thought maybe my dates were just off and the heart might possibly be just about to start beating. When my midwife came in though she was completely convinced it was a miscarriage and immediately started giving her condolences. Medically, and logically (I know my dates!) I believed she was right. She gave me the options, wait for it to naturally start or take medicine. She didn't feel I would need a d&c since it was measuring so samll. She said to take my time deciding. I walked out in shock and numb. I've spent the next few days in various states of intense devastation, anger, and grief.

Now? I don't know what to think. They think the baby has been gone for 3 weeks already, but I have not had the slightest spotting, cramping, etc. My cervix is still closed. I still feel all the same pregnancy symptoms, in fact they have increased. I absolutely did NOT want to get my hopes up only to have to grieve all over again. However, hubby has been 100% convinced they are wrong. At first I was mad about his reaction, and figured he was just trying to be in denial, but the more I think and read about it I'm not sure.

I know whatever happens will happen, but I absolutely can not take pills to end it if I am not 110% sure. I found the Misdiagnosed Miscarriage forum and read SO many stories just like mine where baby just had a slow start or was measured wrong or something and ended up completely healthy and thriving. Am I being stupid? Has anyone had experience with this? Doctor said she will do another u/s on Monday, 6 days later, but I'm also not entirely sure that's enough time to wait. I'm definitely not taking meds until I know for sure, but I'm not sure how or when I will be convinced.

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June 20, 2015 at 5:04 pmI had a very similar experience, right down to the sono dates, you are having. It's great that you haven't had any cramps or bleeding. I did have severe cramps around when the baby likely stopped growing. If you have irregular periods and your dating could be off please hold out hope! I to have read many experiences where women in your shoes have had healthy babies! I'm assuming they have asked you to come back in 1-2 weeks? Baby dust your way. So sorry you have to experience this...try your best to stay busy and relaxed emotionally!

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June 21, 2015 at 5:38 pmI would defintely wait and let nature take it course! Would they consider doing another ultrasound in a week or two? I'm hoping for the best for you.

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June 22, 2015 at 7:26 amYes, they actually told me to come back in today for a repeat scan, but it's only been 6 days and I feel like it's a little early still. I still have no cramping or spotting and my cervix is still closed. However, my BBT has been going down by .1 every single day for 6 days now, so I feel that's a pretty sure sign my progesterone is dropping and it is coming.

The catch in all of this is we are supposed to travel in 16 days and it is not a trip I am willing to cancel. So I'm not sure how long this process is going to take and if at some point I should give in and take the meds as much as I really want to let it happen naturally.

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June 22, 2015 at 9:08 amBy the way, I just found out that even though I was supposedly measuring 6 weeks, my HCG was 82,365.

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June 22, 2015 at 11:49 amSorry to hear what you're going through. Are you able to get another appointment before you go on your trip?

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June 22, 2015 at 5:20 pmThose hCG levels are high for a 7-8 weeks measurement. I went back to look at my charts and I bled for about 13 days and then started a week later for one day, skipped and then bled another day. That's was it. It was very uncomfortable and heavy cramping at times. I had to stay off my feet to help prevent too much blood lose (sorry so descriptive). I was very tired and it came came in waves of a heavy flow and pain. My hCG did not go down quick enough and my doc was worried about residal tissue and the body recognizing the miscarriage to prevent infection. You can only make that decision for yourself with your plans and what new info you can find out in the meantime. What has your doc said about your plans and what if scenarios? So sorry for being forward with my experience. I just wanted to give you one of many scenarios of the process. Everyone's experience is different. Best of luck!

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June 23, 2015 at 12:19 pmNo need to apologize for the description, I'm glad to know what to expect. I've heard much worse stories already. Yeah, I still can't believe my HCG was that high. I just don't know what to think. Still not one single sign of miscarriage, and tons of pregnancy symptoms still, though with those HCG levels I can see why! I'm going back in tomorrow for a repeat scan with a different tech and more bloodwork. I'm terrified to see it again if there is no change, but can't help but pray for a huge miracle!

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June 26, 2015 at 12:15 pmWell, unfortunately the repeat ultrasound showed no growth in a week and no heartbeat. My HCG dropped from 82,365 to 63,679.

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June 29, 2015 at 11:13 amSo sorry to hear that. I'm sending positive thoughts your way.

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July 18, 2016 at 6:51 pmHello all, I am having a similar situation and my Hcg levels were 1331 at 18 dpo, 3036 at 24 dpo, and dropped to 2671 at 27 dpo. I am going for an ultrasound this wed and seeing the dr on thurs. I am trying to prepare myself for a miscarriage diagnosis but am also still hoping for a miracle. Part of me knows my numbers dropping can mean only one thing but then another part of me is hoping there is some other explanation. No cramping, no spotting, and still having pregnancy symptoms. Waiting to find out is tortuous and I feel like I am going to come out of my skin. Any thoughts or advice is welcomed and appreciated.

39 TTC #2 (DH 45)
DD 4y6mth (5/10/13)
MC 8w3d and 7 CP
Phoenix born 8/25/18!! :-)

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July 22, 2016 at 9:01 pmHi! Sorry to hear you are going through this! So nerve wracking! Hopefully you get some good news at your ultrasound!

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July 24, 2016 at 9:19 pmI'm so sorry to hear what you both are going through, I've been there myself twice. First time I blindly went forward with a D&C even though I was still having pregnancy symptoms and sometimes I torture myself and wish I had waited to make sure but it was a blighted ovum and not viable. My second miscarriage I had my HCG monitored and it never got very high and when it started to drop my body let go naturally and the bleeding was intense but short, I was only 5.5 weeks so there wasn't too much to get out but it was still pretty intense. If you have two weeks before your trip you have a little time to let your body let go, especially if your HCG is dropping your body may do it naturally and it's a much easier recovery physically. I'm not sure if that helped at all but I just wanted to chime in because I've been there and I know how hard it is physically and emotionally. Take time to heal and recover and treat yourself gently and kindly.
Sending you both support and healing

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July 24, 2016 at 10:36 pmThank you for the support ladies! I did have an ultrasound and there WAS a heartbeat! My hope came to a screeching halt after my doctor said EVERY patient he's had with major Hcg drops, did eventually miscarry. Only one other patient also had a heartbeat after an Hcg drop, but she miscarried as well. I am going back to have another scan Wed but at this point, I am emotionally exhausted. Wondering and waiting is SO hard but your support means so much. My love to those who have been through difficult pregnancies <3

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DD 4y6mth (5/10/13)
MC 8w3d and 7 CP
Phoenix born 8/25/18!! :-)

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